Friends Forever

I’m pretty sure that’s a song……..Upon my Google search apparently there was a song by “Vitamin C” called Friends Forever, but that’s not the song that I’m thinking of. Being a church goer I heard this certain Friends Forever song a bazillion times sung by girls in my church. I even have the tune stuck in my head, but I can’t remember anything other than friends forever. I wasn’t the biggest fan of the song either.  Gah! It’s stuck in my head!!!

I have been feeling quite disconnected from the world these past few months. Maybe it’s because we’ve only had one car so I was stuck at home with nowhere to go. Poor me! I’ve desperately wanted some girl time, but like I’ve said no car allows me zero options to run around town visiting my girls. Which of course made me begin to think about friends as the title mentions.

I’ve never been the type of person to have A LOT of friends. I tend to stick with the ones I’ve had forever and I’m happy with that. I’m always open to new friendships in fact I would love some mommy friends or non-mommy friends. I don’t discriminate. I’m an equal opportunity friend.

When I moved to Oregon I was so upset to leave my family and friends. I knew that it would take me awhile to make new ones. Friends that is.  But I did. I have a few great girls back in Oregon that I miss so much since I moved back to Cali. What I loved or love about my girls back in OR is that we made time for each other even if it was once a month. I really really enjoyed my day with my girls. Even if getting ready and driving “so far” was not fun I still loved spending time with them. Being back home in Cali is wonderful! I am so glad I’m back, but I would be lying if I said that a part of me misses Oregon. Ok not Oregon but my friends in Oregon. Maybe it’s because I was gone for so long or maybe this is just how life is, but I feel a slight disconnection from my friends here. I know that I was gone for almost 7 years and life goes on. Things change.  Although I want to just dive in and have girl time I know that life on both ends tends to get hectic.  I know that family is all important and even with an invitation to do something it seems like such a task to just get out of the house.  But I think that friendships are just like any other relationship. Shouldn’t we make time to nurture it?

I always wanted to be the girl with the really close knit friends that couldn’t live without each other. The girls that went to each other for everything. This must be my movie induced fantasy about the bestest friends ever in the world!!! I think I would still love to have that. Making new friends seems just as hard as it did when I was younger. Maybe even more difficult.  I feel like the little girl who gets picked last when it’s time to pick teammates or the little girl who raises  her hand saying “Pick me, Pick me Pick me”!!! It seems more difficult to me anyway because there are women out there that have their friendships established. So when you try to get into that group of best buddies it’s not the easiest thing to do. Or maybe that’s all in my head. Maybe other women perceive me that way. I don’t know.

I will say that I absolutely understand without a doubt the busyness of life. I don’t get upset or frustrated or whatever when someone can’t do this or that. Or call me back or whatever it may be. I know that people forget or are just tired. I guess that’s why texting was invented. For the friend that wants to talk, but doesn’t want to physically move their mouth so instead they move their fingers. Oh the joys of modern technology.  Or maybe modern technology plays a sneaky role in the disconnection from friends in today’s world.  You don’t necessarily have to pick up the phone to talk anymore. You can text or facebook what you want to say without ever hearing a voice. Convenient? Yes. Disconnecting? Possibly. Anyway, I got sidetracked for a bit. I know that life happens and therefore I am not upset when it does. But what I have missed since moving back home is taking time with my friends. I think that there should be date night among friends. After all, we make date night for our husbands or significant others so shouldn’t we extend the same courtesy to our friends? The ones that know the most about us. The ones that we tell things to that we can’t tell our spouses or choose not to. We all need time out from everyday life so why don’t we put time into that?  Why don’t we schedule dates with our friends and keep them?

Maybe I’m just having a pity party.

Pity Party!!! Party of 1.

I miss my girl time. I want my friends to meet me at my house, or half way, or their house, or somewhere. I think it should be a regular thing. Not just occasionally.  Shoot, I’ll even take once a month 🙂

My door is always open.

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