Babywise: Controversial or no big deal?

Whew!!!!!!!!!! It’s been ages since I posted anything on my blog. Sorry to say I just haven’t been feelin’ the blog world since my last post. However, I couldn’t bring myself to delete it so I thought I’ll post when the mood arises. And you guessed it….the mood has arisen.  Hmmm….is that grammatically correct?

So anywho, I was just reading a blog and she had mentioned that she uses Babywise with her twin daughters. Now, I have never read the book. I’ve basically gotten the run down from other blog posts and friends who use it. I know that some people are STRONGLY opposed to it while others are STRONGLY for it.  I did consider reading the book before I had my son, but I never got around to it.

I would say that before having a baby I was very much the type of person that was determined to have my baby not run my life. As I got closer to having my first baby I was beginning to realize that it might not be so cut and dry. Once I have my adorable son I was hit hard with the reality that was a newborn. Along with having our  son we discovered he had acid reflux, and locking him down tight with a feeding schedule. sleep schedule, and play schedule wasn’t going to happen. I was very stressed!!! Extremely stressed!!!  I think I was still trying to control what I couldn’t when it came to the acid reflux and getting him down for naps. Wasn’t happening. Even though there were/are skeptics out there that thought I was letting the acid reflux “control” me. Something I learned quickly with a reflux baby was that I couldn’t force a schedule on him. So it became more about seeing what he was doing and trying to make a schedule from that.

Now that I am pregnant with my second baby I realize that I’m going to go with the flow. I’m going to take my cues from this little bundle of joy and see how it goes. Now that doesn’t mean I’m all about attachment parenting, but neither am I for Babywise parenting either. Somewhere in the middle perhaps.

Again I have never read the book so I am curious what others think about.  Anyone out there a firm believer of the Babywise Method? Anyone strongly opposed to Babywise? Is there anyone who has used it, loved it, and then decided after so many babies that it was no longer for them?  I would love to hear from you out there. Feel free to sound off.

3 thoughts on “Babywise: Controversial or no big deal?

  1. jaime says:

    I followed your post from the blog of the momma of twins you were referring to. Here are my thoughts on the Babywise “controversy:” I have yet to meet an anti-Babywise person who has actually read the entire book (I’m sure they are out there, and those I respect their educated thoughts). From my understanding it was revised, and my copy is certainly not as boot-camp and cold as some understand it to be. The whole premise is that there is a healthy cycle for a baby (eat, wake, sleep). It’s actually middle of the road between the demand feeding camp and the attachment parenting camp. The author specifically states that the clock doesn’t dictate your schedule, and that there are times that your baby will need a detour from the schedule. I definitely encourage parents to read it. I read it as an exhausted first-time-mom, of a growingly fussy five week-old. A week later I had a happy baby sleeping through the night and getting full feedings. Every baby is different and has different needs, but for our family is was what we needed. Cheers!

    • Cashmama2010 says:

      Hi Jaime,
      Thank you for letting me know your side of the Babywise Controversy. I haven’t read the book, but feel the need to just so I can honestly decide what I think about the whole situation. Personally, those that I know that use it were so strict with it that I was slightly frightened away from it. However, the more I think about it the more I realize that I was maybe already trying to do the timed eat, sleep, wake thing w/o ever reading the book. I think over time for me & my son I just built somewhat of a schedule on his patterns. I guess I beed to borrow someones book so I can finally read it. Thanks again for your feedback. I really appreciate it.

      • jaime says:

        From your story though, it sounds like you had a different situation with your son having acid reflux. He was probably not comfortable, and Babywise wouldn’t have been the answer. I have friends that tried it with no results and later discovered what their babies needed, was for them to cut dairy and/or soy from their diets, because the babies couldn’t tolerate it in the breast milk. Hats off to you for being willing to read it for yourself, but keep in mind it’s one of many possible methods. 🙂

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